“Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” is one of the most heartwarming Christmas songs. The haunting music and depth of the lyrics speak volumes. As gay guys we often laugh at the pun – but can we really make the yuletide “gay”? The holidays pose many unique challenges for gay men who are often forced [...]
The start of a new year is the natural time to reflect on our progress. We evaluate our life goals and make resolutions to change. For most people; however, resolutions tend to last a few weeks and then ultimately fizzle out. Resolutions have failure built into them because consciously or unconsciously we expect them to [...]
“I don’t think there’s enough passion between us”, “I don’t think we are a complete match”, “I’m not feeling a click”, “I don’t think there’s enough chemistry on my side”, “We’re not sexually compatible”, “I’m not ready for a relationship”, “It’s not you; it’s me”, “I’d like for us to remain friends”. Oh…the perils of [...]
Negativity can always find a way to creep up in your life from time to time. However, when negativity builds up too much or shows up too often, you now have an obstacle to overcome. A negative attitude holds you back from truly living your life. But you don’t need to feel stuck because you [...]
February 14th is known as the day to celebrate love. Countless couples exchange gifts such as flowers, cards, candy, jewelry and dinners with feelings of affection and love for each other. For many singles; however, being alone on Valentine’s Day can evoke feelings of loneliness, self-doubt, unworthiness and even depression. People are either single by [...]
The surge in anti-gay bullying and violent attacks on gay men is quite disturbing – particularly in New York City where diversity and tolerance is the norm, recent random attacks are hard to comprehend. Moreover, the rise in suicide among gay teens is truly heartbreaking. How do these events affect us as gay men and [...]
Society projects an idealized image of a fulfilled life as being straight and married with children. This is viewed as the pinnacle of success in the hierarchy of love. At the very least we should all have a significant other in our lives. With the advent of gay marriage, many gay men are feeling even [...]
The current economic climate has caused much alarm. Many of us are being faced with job losses, foreclosures, shrinking retirement accounts, credit crunches and an overall increase in costs for food, fuel, healthcare and housing. While it is easy to get discouraged and feel a sense of despair, it is important to remember that you are never powerless. You [...]
As children, we were fully alive with our dreams. Sadly, over the years we convinced ourselves that our dreams could never come true. We listened to many adults around us who frequently told us to “face reality” and so we assumed that our dreams were just unrealistic fantasies. Consequently, many of us never even tried [...]
“Laughter is the best medicine” is a phrase that dates back to biblical times as an old Proverb and it’s still widely used today all over the world. That’s because it’s true! Let’s take a look at what happens inside your body, mind and spirit when you laugh. Laughter’s Effect on Your Body Endorphins are [...]
