Forty Something “Are you a forty something gay man who is wondering what's next in life? Did you expect to be at a different place in your life then you are now? Do you have unfulfilled hopes and dreams that you know you can still accomplish? Let's explore these crossroads and develop a plan to create your best life yet!

Success Secrets To A Better Future

Stop for a moment, take a look around and ask yourself this question: Is this the quality of life I was hoping for? If you answered “No”, then my question to you is “Why not?”  “What would you like to do differently?” “What are you doing today to change your life for the better?” Most people who have been asked these questions say “It’s no use because…..” and so it goes…. excuses!

But it really doesn’t have to be this way. The first step in getting out of a rut is to stop making excuses and take responsibility for your life. You can begin to change your life situation today. How do I know? I know because others have done it and so have I. Yes, there will be obstacles, but nothing that you can’t overcome. The only requirement is your desire to change. Mark Twain once said “It’s not the size of the dog in the fight; it’s the size of the fight in the dog.” If your desire is strong enough, you can achieve almost anything you set your mind to.

The second step to getting out of a rut is to step out in faith. There is no time like the present to change the course of your life. You might not succeed at first, but you must keep trying. Success will eventually come with persistence. Albert Einstein once said “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

So begin to step out and take some action today! What’s one thing you can do today that will bring you closer to your goals and dreams? Do it. Take a chance and get started! And, as William Durant, the founder of General Motors said “Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you’re going to do now and do it.”

Stop Settling and Start Sizzling

So, it looks like you’re stuck in a rut. Are you bored with your life and the same old routine day after day? Of course you can’t be happy like this!

There’s an exciting world out there with a lot to offer. Deep down you know you want to get out and take a big bite of it. Sure, it may be a bit overwhelming, and even scary at times, but you can’t let your life just pass you by.

It’s time to live those dreams, take a leap of faith, and get out of your comfort zone! But how do you get started?

Continue reading for some valuable tips and suggestions to help you be all you can be, now and always:

1. Decide what you want to do. Put your fears aside and step outside of your comfort zone. If you could do anything without fear, money, or time being an issue, what would you choose?

  • Make a list of everything you would like to accomplish someday. It doesn’t matter how crazy or outrageous you may think it is, just write it down.
  • It also doesn’t matter if your list has three or thirty-three things listed. Just search your heart and your mind and write down what you would really like to do.

2. Faith. It’s important to have faith to see your journey right up until the end, yet this may be one of the hardest qualities to develop. Remember how it feels to be stuck where you are with no excitement and no real purpose. You know things can be better than they are now, but how?

  • All you need to do is believe in yourself. You know that countless people before you have lived their dreams, so why not you? What makes them so different?
  • There really is no difference between you and others, except for the belief in the possibility for great success. You can be just like they are; you just have to believe you can do it!

3. Don’t keep it a secret. If you’re ashamed of how you’re feeling, you shouldn’t be. Many people find themselves in the same predicament. The only thing that should embarrass you is if you intentionally decide to stay in that rut! Do yourself a big favor and open up to someone you trust.

  • Whether that’s a parent, spouse, or best friend, tell them that you’re ready to make a change in your life and they’ll be able support you throughout your journey. They’ll encourage you on the good days and cry with you on the bad days.
  • Most importantly, they’ll be there to support you throughout it all. It’s just what you need to achieve great success!

4. Take the first step. It’s time to take a leap of faith. As much as you want to step outside the box and get out of this rut, nothing will happen without taking that first big step.

  • No matter how anxious you may be, you should focus on the big picture and the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Muster up all the encouragement and support you can find and just do it. Once the first step is accomplished, it gets easier!
  • You deserve to be the best that you can possibly be, and deep down inside you know this. You’ll be so glad you took action – and you’ll be so proud of yourself when you celebrate at the finish line!

No one enjoys being in a rut and just going through the motions of life. Don’t let your fears hold you back. After all, this is a wonderful world that you deserve to enjoy to the fullest!

Go out and experience everything life has to offer. Take a leap of faith and you’ll never look back again!